Design a site like this with
Get started

Menstrual Cycle vs The Moon (and my current girl crush)… #lisalister #codered #menstrualcycle

Let me start with my back story… I am a witch. That’s to say that I have actively been studying and practicing an eclectic form of witchcraft for little over 6 years now (definitely an adolescent stage by many standards). Part of my craft is a focus on astrology with a heavy emphasis on the moon, specifically what phase and sign she is in at any given moment. As many, if not all, of you Pagans out there will know, this is for the purpose of spell work, planning intentions, manifestation and ritual. Now for my girl crush, the fabulous Lisa Lister! If you don’t know who she is, Google her. She is the mistress of all things essentially woman, most importantly lady landscapes as she calls it. She writes and teaches about the menstrual cycle and how we women can harness the power that our cycles offer if we only work with it instead of against it. Admittedly, I bought her book Code Red almost a year ago, after reading and falling in love with another book of hers titled Witch, but I digress. I tried to read Code Red but found myself only jumping around and reading different sections at a time. For whatever reason, her words just weren’t speaking to me at the time. Then last week I happened across a podcast where she was the guest. She really got my attention when she started explaining how bleeding women can/should use their own natural cycles for manifestation versus using the moon’s cycle. After hearing that I wondered if maybe my failures at manifestation were simply a matter of following the wrong cycle? On closer inspection, when my attempts at manifestation have been successful, I was not paying attention to the moon. In those moments when I’ve truly had a need/desire I used my own energy in that moment with whatever tools I had available. Needless to say, I cracked open that book and read it cover to cover in 2 days time. Now it’s important to note that Lisa is by no means saying NOT to work with the moon, but the key to our greatness is within our own monthly cycle. Remember, your menstrual cycle is more than just a weeks worth of bleed time. Your hormones are raising and falling, as are your moods and energy level, throughout the entire monthly cycle. Each phase of your cycle is like the seasons/moon: bleed=winter/dark, pre-ovulation=spring/waxing, ovulation=summer/full, pre-menstrual=fall/waning. Now, I can’t speak for you, but on inspection, my cycle is at odds with the moon’s cycle most of the time. What’s happening is during the waxing moon my body/energy is waning and this makes not for good manifestation/spell work. So the goal has become to listen to my body, what it needs or is doing throughout the month; To, first and foremost, use my own natural cycle and energy to create and manifest. Now you should be warned, this takes work! You have to chart and track your monthly cycle so you’ll know what phase your in/what day your on. But I think it’s absolutely worth it to get to know YOU, how YOU work, what YOU need and how to use that to your advantage in your daily life. I think we can all agree, that regardless of your spiritual leanings, we all want to manifest the best life possible. I encourage all woman to do self exploration and growth in whatever why feels right to them. But if your interested, I would highly recommend checking out Lisa Lister and her fabulous work. Updates pending on my progress following my own cycle versus the moon. ❤️Mary


This is actually an old post but still worth posting again…Let us start with an expert from my favorite poem, Disiderata by Max Erhman, “Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass”. Beautifully put I think. Let’s examine that further and ask how we might apply Mr. Erhman’s words into our lives.

1st…Be yourself. Well that seems fairly self explanatory on the surface. But can you say that you are comfortable with yourself? So much so that you can accept that person and live that every moment of everyday? If the answer is no, ask yourself why… Max Erhman also wrote, “Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself”. Discover your true self, you are exactly the person you are meant to be in this moment. And if you recognize a need for change then change so that you can be the authentic, unapologetic, self loving you that you deserve to be.

2nd…Do not feign affection. To feign is to fake something. So in simpler terms do not fake affection. Be straight forward and honest. Honesty truly is the best policy, especially in matters of the heart. If we’re not being honest in matters of the heart, our own or others, we will eventually hurt one another and cause needless suffering. And that suffering will cause us pain as much as others.

3rd…Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass… Oh how easy it is to fall into the trap of cynicism. How painful it must be to have the ever present inclination that people are motivated purely by self-interest, to be distrustful of human sincerity or integrity. Love is truly a beautiful thing! And it can be found all around us, if only we choose to notice it… like the grass. Now I will agree that occasionally we come across a patch of land where the grass has died or is growing poorly. And to that I would say that maybe, just maybe if we showed the bare patch of earth a little love, water it, give it some sun, nurture it, the grass would return fuller and greener than ever before.

To incorporate this type of thinking and being into your life does take mindfulness and practice; But I can say that I have seen these principals enrich lives immeasurably for the better. I hope you have enjoyed this week’s musings here On North Sweetbriar Lane; If you did, please remember to like and share!

With Love – Mary


As this is the very first post for On North Sweetbriar, I’ll make it an inductory post. As noted, the physical place, North Sweetbriar is an aspiring urban homestead. Our aim on that front is to produce some of our own food, as well as other whatnots. In other words to be a little closer to self sufficiency and environmentally conscious as we can. In addition to that, on another level, On North Sweetbriar is a mental space to learn, grow and share insights and wisdom. It will serve as an intersection between philosophy, paganism/nature worship and building a new life from the ground up. Of course, it will also include all the wonderful failures and small triumphs along the way.
I’m of the belief that too many of us are trapped by this need to consume. We, all of us, myself included, become so entrenched in this need for “__“(fill in the blank…money, stuff, new clothes, a partner, whatever), that we waste our lives slaving away in places (jobs, situations, mental space…) that bring us suffering and misery. Why and to what end? We should be creators! Creators of our lives and our futures. I challenge you today to create something that brings some joy to your soul. It can be something as small as a drawing or as big as chasing your dreams. The choice is yours. This page and all that follows is my attempt at creating a more meaningful life for myself and my family. A life that will hopefully bring joy, satisfaction and, if we’re really lucky, income so that we can expand and continue to do the things we love.
Now eventually this page will be paired with a blog that will share the same overall vibes and goals, but will hopefully expand on this little venture. So thank you for liking our page and don’t forget to share!
♥️ Mary

Blog at

Up ↑